Some people perceived Valentine's Day as a day created by large corporation mainly for business generation & profit taking.
Some even thought that it is just another day. What is so special about it.....the earth still spins the same way!
To me, why not just merely enjoy it instead of thinking on the negative side of it or having too much analysis on the origination. It is beautiful and lovely to have such a day for couple to rekindle their love, for new couple to strengthen their love and most importantly, for secret-lover to reveal their secret!!
It can be a reason, an excuse or a purpose for us to do something or express our hearts out!
I'm married since 2002 and 2nd of October was the day that my life was coupled with another partner, Anne.We used to enjoyed, argued, teased and supported each other and fortunately, until today!
I think these are the reason that we sustained our marriage and relationship.
Well, a calm sea will not make a skillful sailor! A calm relationship will not make a steady couple either.
Remember those days when we first met our secret lover, ideal guy or gal where our hearts pumping at 50kHz and our blood travels at 180km / hr! We can't sleep, eat, study and think well whenever "he" or "she" is not around. We miss that person every minute, every hour and every day!
We used to wear an "angelic" or a "gentlemanic" mask all the time, speaking and behaving gently, well-mannered and acting as a YES man or woman! Sometimes to the extend of gently "lying" to our partner saying that:
..."YES, it is convenient, I'll fetch you..."
(You wanted to say: "Why not take a bus, then LRT, then take a taxi lah!")
..."YES, what a beautiful dress..."
(You wanted to say: "Don't waste money lah!")
..."YES honey, you are still slim..."
(You wanted to say: "Fatty bom-bom, curi jagung! Eh, sign up Marie France lah")
..."YES dear, it is delicious..."
(You wanted to say: "Better don't cook, next time order pizza ok!")
Well, it was those "Gentle-Lies" and Mask that actually keep a relationship interesting.
Time will dilute those interesting moments. Opening our mask and telling unnecessary "truth" will hurt a relationship sometimes. You might not agree but it is true.
Imagine on the 4 examples statement above, to be replaced by the bracketed statement!
You are just looking for trouble!
Well, HONESTY is a must in a relationship, but it must be coupled with RESPECT.
Tell the truth, but find the right way and the right time to communicate.
It will save you from unnecessary war!
As the saying goes, Make Love, not War!
Happy Valentine's Day.
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ReplyDeleteWhen you honestly love a person, everything that he or she needs you to do truly IS convenient, simply because you enjoy doing things for him/her.
ReplyDeleteWhen you honestly love a person, you'd truly WANT to buy the best outfit for him/her, regardless the cost, simply because it makes you feel great knowing he/she has the best.
When you honestly love a person, he/she will always look good regardless how out of shape he/she may be in the public eye, simply because you see right past the physical deep into the inner-beauty.
When you honestly love a person, anything he/she cooks tastes great, simply because the food is laced with unspoken love that you desire so much from him/her.
Honesty is most important in a relationship. Not just to each other but to one's own self. Be honest and the rest falls into place.
Jst my 2 cents worth :P